Nathan Bransford, Author


Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Writing Significant Other/Friend/Family Appreciation Day

Writing can be a very solitary pursuit: staring in silence at a notebook or a computer screen for hours and hours, and some more hours, and maybe some more hours after that. Writers are often lost in their worlds even when they're not actually writing and when they are ahem supposed to be spending quality time with their loved ones. Managing to write a novel while also maintaining the love and support of family, significant others, and friends demands a whole lot of those people. They invest in every writer's dreams through support and patience and they live many of the same highs and lows.

Valentine's Day was this past weekend, and I thought it would be nice to have a post-Valentine's Day show of thanks for the significant others, family, and friends who read drafts, find ways to occupy themselves during writing time, listen to complaints about the endless frustrations of the writing life, and offer support when doubts creep in.

Is there anyone you'd like to thank for making your writing life possible?

UPDATE: And here I was all focused on writing this post and not giving thanks to the most important person in my writing life, my wife, who believed that I could be a writer way way way before I ever did. I couldn't have written a novel without her. And to my family and friends for always being so supportive.

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139 comments:

Emily White said...

I would definitely like to thank my husband and two boys for being so patient with me. Yes, you may have to repeat what you say and tug on my sleeve when I'm staring at the screen and typing madly, but I love you for it. Thanks!

Steven Till said...

My wife. I spend 8 hours a day at work and then another hour to two at night working on my novel most nights, so she deserves a special thanks for being patient and giving me that time to write without interruption. Maybe I need to get her a puppy to keep her occupied :)

Sandy & Pamela said...

My husband's my best cheerleader; my mother is my first and most ruthless reader. I don't know how I'd do it without the combination of support and red ink. Thanks, y'all.

Stacey Graham said...

I have an incredible support system with my husband and five young daughters who allow me the illusion of the Cone of Silence (airline headphones) while I'm writing and yell out, "Zombie Dating Guide for the win!" when I'm feeling overwhelmed.

Much love, my little Graham Crackers!

Chase March said...

My cousin is an awesome first reader. She gives it to me straight up. She makes all sorts of marks on my drafts like she's a professor. I really appreciate it. She's awesome.

nomadshan said...

Sending thanks to my husband Dave, for making me give myself permission to write, and then telling me I'm brilliant (or not) when I do.

Alyson said...

My husband. I really don't think I'd have a novel or an agent without his support. He deals with my mood swings, talks to me about my book, helps with self promotion and reads anything I put in front of him. And let me say, my writing mood swings are serious. He's supportive. Not just by letting me do my own thing, but by encouraging me. He wants my book published to be published as much as I do.

Mari-Anna Frangén Stålnacke said...

I've been blessed with such a terrific husband! I could not write without his encouraging support. He is also an amazing cook & a goofy and loving dad. He is ready to move to the end of the earth with me if necessary. He is ready to give up his job, his TV and whatever else it takes to get me the right writing conditions. He is literally a divine gift. Thank you, honey! I love you to the moon and back.

amy said...

My family (my husband Jim in particular)is wonderful. They put up with the blank stares, the sudden outburst about a character or scene, and the endless preoccupied mind of a thinker(not doer). Which translates to laundry still sitting in the laundry room, or make your own dinner, or worse yet, my stealing things like pictures for my website (thanks Janna).
Good idea, Nathan. Thanks to you too. I always want to read your gourmet tray of offerings to writers. I wish you well.

Natalie Whipple said...

I will never, ever get tired of my husband asking, "Have you written me another chapter yet?"

I'm not sure he knows how much that keeps me going.

aspiring_x said...

My husband who not only falls asleep alone, but bangs on the wall when I get lost in book world and stay up too late. It's nice to have someone who won't let you obsess too much. And my three little boys who understand they need to go to bed so mommy can do her typing. They are also the ones who are eager to hear the lastest (age appropriate) action in the stories! Which makes me feel all warm and fuzzy, you know.

Nicole Lorenz said...

My dad. Sometimes he'll call me to ask how I'm doing and get an earful about whatever writing project I've got in front of me instead.

Ink said...

My wife, of course, who also writes and understands, and the wee ravenous gremlins.

Erinn said...

Thank you to my husband who I ignore so I can play with my imaginary friends. My daughter who still takes long naps. My fellow writer friends who become my cheerleaders when I think every letter I've ever written is complete crap.

Kate said...

My husband, who only reads the red tape at the bottom of the screen on ESPN and writes...checks, for supporting my desire to write even though he doesn't quite understand it. And my parents, of course, for always encouraging and supporting my desire to do pretty much anything.

Heather said...

My husband, who I sometimes ignore so I can keep writing. He will come to kiss me hello and I'll just give him a peck, with an annoyed face, because he disrupted my flow, then hours later when he goes to bed I'm still at it.

My writer friends, all of whom are online, for understanding, supporting, encouraging, and critiquing me.

Amanda B. said...

I'd like to thank my husband for not throwing my computer at the wall when he walks into the bedroom and there I am, sitting on the bed with my fingers flying over the keys, obsessed with "just five more minutes."

Lindsey Edwards said...

My mother critiques my work. I write romance and my mom is an avid reader of romance and she is a retired English teacher so I know her input is gold. I have to thank my husband and father for funding trips to writers conferences. I also have to thank all my online writing buddies especially YA author Heather McCorkle for always being there when exciting news came in or when I needed help with my query. Also have to thank long-distance friend, Erin who is there for me whenever I need someone to talk (or, er, sometimes complain) to.

Amalia T. said...

Would not be 5 books in if my husband had not said "You should stay home and write." So thankful and grateful that he wants me writing instead of working a miserable job bagging groceries or the like.

Misty said...

Kind of a save-my-butt post, Nathan...'specially because I forgot Valentines since I was working (writing)...whoops. I'm getting everybody a box of chocolate and taping copies of your post on top~ Thanks again!!

jcaddell said...

My husband is a saint. A BIG thanks to a wonderful man who supports and encourages the creative fog that surrounds me every day. He is awesome.

Kirk K said...

I want to thank my dear wife who has been giving me great feedback on my novel as I move towards completion. She encourages me and has been providing a good kick in the pants when necessary.

Shelley Sly said...

Thanks to my incredible husband, who couldn't be more supportive (he even offered to support us financially if I wanted to take time off work to write! Not that I ever would, but it shows how much he believes in me), and my loving mother, who reminds me all the time how talented she thinks I am, and encourages me to write from the heart. I love my family.

lboylecrompton said...

Oooo - What a lovely idea! It takes a lot of faith to write a novel and there have been many times my husband's faith in me and my dream carried me through! Thanks sweetie!

Stephanie said...

Thanks to my wonderful husband and sweet little boys who put up with me as I work away in front of my computer at all hours. My family for offering support and encouragement, and all my friends and early readers that are always pushing me for more! Thanks for everything!

Scott said...

My partner has my enduring thanks for putting up with me during my obsessive, and non-obsessive, writing periods.

Nicole Marie Schreiber said...

My husband, friends, neighbors, kids' grandparents, and everyone else who helps me with taking care of my two young boys when I need to lock myself in my office and write! I also am very thankful to my critique group, Viva Scriva, for encouraging me. They are the best valentines a writer could ever have.

Pimlicokid said...

My wife: at the beginning, through the long haul and, I know, in the future. It means everything.

Lauren Barnholdt said...

This is an awesome idea!

My husband and my sister, definitely.

My husband motivates me and always supports me no matter what.

My sister always believed in me, even before I sold a book, and has read everything I've ever written.

Thanks guys!

Geoff said...

My wonderful wife Michelle for her patience and moral support. My number one beta reader and critiquing extrodanaire, Katey. Matt & Kevin for their support. Dave for drudging through my first draft with helpful and understanding hands. My co-creator Matt for the wealth ideas that pour from his head. I love you all!

Ellen B said...

My boyfriend, my mother, and my writing buddies, especially Adam, Suzy and Zoe, and all my writing buddies in Blogland.

JustineDell said...

Yes, my daughter. Eventhough she keeps me busy with her 'hobbies', she let's me have the slightest bit of time for mine. Thank you, Emily.

~JD

Scott said...

Gotta thank my mom for showing a genuine interest in my pursuit and reading everything I've ever written.

Rebecca Knight said...

Wonderful post, and so timely!

To my dear husband, who is right now reading my 500th draft just to make sure it's PERFECT before I query. I'm sure he has some parts memorized by this point, but he always volunteers. You are the best, babe! Thank you for being my idea factory, my best supporter, and my first and last beta reader.

Also, a huge thanks to my mom and grandma, who always believe in me and pray for me :). Also, thanks mom for the grammar advice! I would never know when to use that or which without you ;).

Amy said...

I need to thank my husband, Mike, & my 3 girls, Deanna, Evelyn, & Amelia, for their patience & inspiration, & for their general ability to get-along-without-me when needed.

I also want to thank all those bloggers out there, & Verla Kay's Blue Boards & AW Water Cooler as well. Without all of you, I would never have learned as much about the business as I have. And I learn more & more every day.

Renee Collins said...

My twin sister.

She is to me what Theo van Gogh was to Vincent.

(Not that I'm comparing myself to Vincent van Gogh, but, well, you know what I mean.)

Molly H said...

Great idea!
I send a huge bouquet of love to my husband, Jason for being a rock and my best, most passionate reader. Also for doing the dishes and picking up slack night after night so I can write.
Also, to my two little ones, who keep me grounded in love, I bless them for their patience and their spirited support.
And to my sister, Wendy, who pleaded for chapters as I revised them. She made that first book happen.
Yay! Thanks Nathan!

Tracy Hahn-Burkett said...

My husband, who: kicked me in the butt by telling me seven years ago to "quit talking about writing and start doing it"; reads every single thing I write before it goes anywhere; listened to me talk out the main characters and key plot elements of my WIP (novel) for a year-and-a-half and helped me sharpen elements like conflict, etc., as I worked (he was an English Lit. major in college); supports me and our kids financially so that I can pursue my passion; puts up with my rapid-pace, roller coaster-style swings from despair to elation and back again regarding my ability to write a novel of the quality to which I aspire; offers confidence boosts when I really need them; and loves me through all of it.

And thanks to my kids for providing such great material for my non-fiction and children's writing and for understanding, in the words of my then-six-year-old son, that "Mommy loves to write and write and write."

Lucinda Gunnin said...

My wonderful husband, who is also a writer, so he understands the statement, "Ooh, I have a great idea for a story!" and simply brings me food from time to time.

And, all my loving online friends, writers and otherwise, who forgive me when i disappear for days on end.

Sarah Laurenson said...

I was sick this weekend and our Valentine's plans bit the dust. My wife is really amazing, supportive, loving. I owe her big.

Kristi said...

I couldn't ask for a more supportive hubby - he rocks! Also, thanks to my kiddos, siblings, friends, critique group members, blog readers, and fellow bloggers for being so awesome. I feel very fortunate to be surrounded by such great people! Thanks to you too Nathan for your wonderful blog. :)

Matt Heppe said...

My mom. She started me on this journey with a gift of The Hobbit many years ago. And my wife for her wonderful support.

ryan field said...

This post is certainly appropriate for anyone who has to live with a writer. They deserve all the appreciation they can get.

Jeff Hewitt said...

My wife has been my biggest supporter and best proof reader. Thank you, Megan.

Sara McClung ♥ said...

Oh God. My husband. He's amazing. When I started writing my novel, he believed in me SO much that he told me to quit my job so I could concentrate full time on writing.

I'll start querying in a month or so, so we'll see how it pans out--but regardless of the end result, I will NEVER forget or stop appreciating his complete support :)

Malin said...

I think I would like to thank writing for putting out with me. I have few friends, no partner and a small family. Writing is a way for me not to suffocate, especially during a day such as Valentine.

Writing allows me to dive into my characters and both love and be loved for a while. It's a precious thing.

T. Anne said...

Great post. I would love to thank my husband and children who appreciate the fact manipulating the twenty-six letters of the alphabet is more than just my sport.

Paul and Karen said...

Thanks to my husband who keeps me on track and brings me back home when I've traveled too far. And my girls, who write as well. They understand the worth of that shining moment when everything crystallizes, so they chill and get their own dinners some days. Love you guys!

Kayeleen said...

My husband. He's my sounding board, my inspiration, and my support. More often than I can count, he's been the one to say, "Why don't you go do some writing?" It's nice to know he thinks so highly of my efforts.

Abby Stevens said...

My husband, who let me quit my job (!!) two years ago to just write. I love him, I love what I do, I love life.

http://www.thetabbycatt.blogspot.com

Holly said...

What a wonderful post.

I'd like to thank my beloved late husband Jack, who passed away last February. He put up with me night after night, said "It's okay if you want to stay up all night writing," read all the hideous incarnations of my novel, and told me "people don't talk like that," and other honest advice. And when I got stuck, he was my secret treasure trove: "If you came home and there was an alien hiding in the bedroom closet, what noise would it make?" he would say, "A click" or some other perfect answer.

God, you had better be taking good care of him.

Mike Delosreyes said...

I’d like to thank myself - my ability to write even when faced with dangers like social obligations and friendly nights out. Keep trying to pry me away from writing.

And even as I deny myself sleep, I will leave in my wake disappointed family and friends.

I am undefeatable!


*weep*

Elizabeth Rushing said...

What a nice thought!
Sadly, I have no one thank. The majority of my friends are of little help--while most are artists, certainly creative, they forget that writing can't be done with music and chatter as can sewing new handbags or nonobjective drawings. I've actually broken up with boyfriends for getting in the way of my work.
I would like to thank YOU for writing such a great blog. Cheers.

Anonymous said...

yeah to my husband. he's smart, supportive, and romantic.

Crimey said...

I'd like to thank my significant other who has read my work and always gives me honest, constructive criticism. Thanks for listening to my complaints, my frustrations and my constant buzzing about the publishing industry. Thanks for always believing in my talent and motivating me when I need it the most. You are truly amazing.

Karen Lange said...

My thanks and appreciation go to my husband, daughter, and good friend Susan who read my drafts, listen to my rantings and musings, and provide all around great support. They're a blessing!

Dara said...

My husband, who is always encouraging me to keep writing.

My younger sister, who is my fellow writing buddy, who also encourages me--and gives me honest critique about my work.

Vegas Linda Lou said...

Yes! I wouldn’t have become the writer and performer I am today without my beloved ex, the title character of my memoir, Bastard Husband: A Love Story. Don’t think I’m being snarky—if it weren’t for him, I would never have made it out of upstate New York. His continued and undying support of my artistic endeavors means the world to me. See—it really is a love story!

Nick said...

I am afraid I must offer the same reaction as I had to Valentine's Day in middle school:

Bitter jealousy.

Sadly Nick has no one in his corner. The extended family and my sister only offer the bland, toothy smiles of falsehood. Friends are much the same. Mother deliberately tries to sew the seeds of doubt in everything. I have theories for this, but I'll not share them here. And the missus knows I write, but she thinks I only do so as a hobby, and intend not for it to be my career. Some days it's enough to leave one feeling quite like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6zEVZGuU3BU

The nearest thing I have to a support network would be everyone hereabouts. So, here's to you, fellow Nathan-stalkers.

Dawn Simon said...

My husband is so supportive, and he totally understands the whole writing thing. He listens to me, encourages me, often does dishes after work, and sends me to conferences. Plus he's my 24/7 tech support guy. He even gave me the desk his dad made him.

My kids are also incredible. My daughter will edit things for me and talk about ideas. And since I write YA, I "shop" for my characters in her room. My son also talks ideas and supports me in huge ways. One time I had an important early morning phone call scheduled. When I came out of our den, he was not only awake, but he was sitting on the stairs, waiting to see how it went. He was only in fourth grade at the time.

Thanks, Nathan! Great idea.

Alexa said...

My lovely husband who makes the dinner most nights so I can write. Then patiently waits to watch TV with me while I finish off.

Not to mention buying me the fabulous big screen and keyboard because he was worried about me using the laptop

Love him!

D. G. Hudson said...

A great idea, Nathan, to show appreciation for those closest to us.

My husband is my greatest supporter, and Ideal Reader. He is also my technical advisor, and the source of verification when I need to gauge my main character's male attributes and emotions.

He's always my favorite Valentine.

Lori W. said...

My husband. He rarely reads my work critically because he doesn't read much fiction and it's easier for me to take feedback from other writers. Still, he surprised me with a plane ticket and registration for my first-ever writing conference. He knew I loved writing and encouraged me to seriously work at it. Also, my critique groups are AMAZING.

Marilyn Peake said...

What a wonderful post! I feel very thankful that I have a family who both support my creative pursuits (writing and photography) and have many creative pursuits of their own. It would be very difficult to spend the many hours I devote to writing without their support.

Melissa Banigan said...

I'm a single mom living in Brooklyn without family around to help, so I'm sure my kid often feels overwhelmed. She's incredibly patient, the sweet dear.

This week, during a week-long school-recess, my daughter let it be known she would like to 'help' me write. Therefore, I've dropped working on my book/short stories this week, and am instead working on a YA novel- I've been reading bits and pieces to her (man, is she a TOUGH critic!), have incorporated some of her ideas, and, in addition, started a contest on my blog that she will help judge (anyone out there want to submit an entry, feel free- it's a weird contest, but I'll do anything to keep my kid occupied this week):

http://brooklynreject.blogspot.com/2010/02/write-for-rat-contest.html

BIG thanks to my kid, parents, select friends. And now, off to help my kid with a school project- the BEST way to show her I care!

Kelly R. Morgan said...

My husband, who is my biggest fan no matter what I do, and recommended I use a different last name to be famous under :) My three daughters who gladly shut me away in my room and let me work while they destroy the house.

Marsha Sigman said...

I would like to thank my husband who has never, not once, doubted that I could do this.

And my son, who at this point thinks I am extremely uncool but doesn't realize that I am teaching him to dream big.

Thermocline said...

I want to thank my wife for the encouraging smiles and quiet support she offers while I rant on about my insecurities. I like those better than the kicks in the pants but those are necessary too.

Oh yeah, and for the butterscotch oatmeal cookies.

Stephanie said...

My husband who believes in me when I don't believe in myself (and who runs after our four kids so that I can write without hearing "Hey, Mommy...")

Also, the four kids I just mentioned who shrug and walk off when I mention another story publication--thus keeping my feet firmly on the ground. ;-) But who also surprise me by saying, "You wrote that? Wow, Mommy that's really good!"

lotusgirl said...

I'm grateful to my family for their patience with me.

Anonymous said...

Ahhhhh this is easy.

My Critics.

It would all be so meaningless
to seek approval and receive it.

First I thank myself
Then I thank my critics.

The loved ones... Well
They are forever inside my heart.

God bless the critics.
Where would I be without opposition.

K.L. Brady said...

I'd like to thank God for the talent and forcing me to use it by refusing to let me receive equal satisfaction from anything else.

I'd also like to thank my beautiful son William, who despite his challenges with Autism, gives me time to write, says "Great Job, Mom!" when I accomplish my writing goals, and gives me the best hugs ever.

emmiefisher said...

I'd have to thank my mother for always bringing us to the library as children. If she hadn't instilled a love of books in me, I'm not sure I would have every started venturing into writing. And during this past November when I was out of a job, she gave me some money so I could go hang out with the local NaNoers at the coffee shops so I could write along with them.

Terry Towery said...

The biggest thanks goes to my beautiful wife, Jennifer. She has been patient, helpful and critical when needed. And always in the right measure. Without her, I am nothing.

My kids, for being so understanding. My editor, Staley, for being so tough and kind and patient. She's the best.

My beta readers, Claire and Everett, for both buidling my confidence and pointing out my shortcomings as a writer.

And last but not least, my online blog friends and co-writers, who encourage me and laugh with me and lend me a sympathetic ear when needed. They are the absolute best!

And thanks to you, Nathan, for providing us the most writer-friendly site on the Internet.

Perry Robles said...

Amen to that, Nathan.

Above all else I would like to thank both my deceased parents who at a young age told me, "there is a lot of negativity that will come your way because of your mentality. Don't listen to any of it. Follow your dreams. You can do whatever you want in life. It is in you to succeed."

Muchisimas gracias, and I still miss you more than all of the stars in my universe.

Further, I would like to thank all of my siblings who still tell me, 'Don't listen to the haters that will come your way. Those that only know how to spew hate. You are special in this universe. We believe in you. Stay your course. You will do fine."

My response to them is always, "I don't listen to them. I never have. I only listen to the harmony that is our life, my siblings."

One more thank you to The Universe. When it seems that my earthly design weighs me down The Universe always lifts me up by telling me that no matter what, "I will always be there for you."

I will always be there for you too, my amigo.

Clarity said...

You always get so many comments, at least one of them echoes my thoughts so I stay silent.

I think this is very sweet. I thank God, literally, does He count as significant? the rest soon follow...

P.S. You are fortunate to have someone that believes in you so strongly.

Limari Colón said...

My husband. He convinces me I'm a writer when I feel like giving up. He also feeds the cats and makes dinner. <3

And Microsoft. For inventing the Xbox 360 that keeps him company.

Amie said...

i would like to thank my wife for her endless encouragement and sometimes butt kicking to get me in gear!

K said...

Thanks to my besties- Miles walked in the room when I was in the middle of chapter four and said that he wanted to read my book. That's when I started taking it all seriously. Props to Jillian, who peer pressured me into finishing the book. Without those two, I'd still be stumbling through half finished projects.

And of course my mom. She has unfailing faith in me, on a ridiculous level. It's good to have that sort of encouragement in this business, even if it isn't always realistic.

Nicole said...

My husband, who believed in me enough to convince me to quit my job and encouraged me to stay home and write full time!

Erika Robuck said...

My husband, three boys, my parents, and my in laws for taking care of each other while I'm at conferences, book clubs, work shops, arts festivals, or just sitting in the office a million miles away in my head. I love them dearly.

abc said...

My husband, Mark, is an awesome editor who knows all the grammar rules I failed to learn (if only my parents had sent me to Catholic school!). He's also a web programmer so I have to thank him for helping me set up my (too) many websites.

My six year old daughter brings magic to my life. That sounds cheesy, sure, but that's just what 6 year olds do--they live in magic worlds where tooth fairies are real and fat men on sleds bring presents (but ipods aren't expensive, mom, because the elves make them!). I like her and her Pokemon obsessed self. Thanks, Dulcie!

Breeze said...

My husband who is a math/engineer type who doesn't read any fiction but still understands how driven I am and supports me in every single possible way...I'm very blessed.

Breeze

Kat Harris said...

And here I was all focused on writing this post and not giving thanks to the most important person in my writing life, my wife...

Didn't Jennifer Aniston do this to Brad Pitt when she won her Emmy?

I wish you and your wife a much happier marriage than theirs.

And I agree. My personal residential support unit (a.k.a. husband and kids) deserves a day of appreciation. Thanks!

lora96 said...

My husband.

My husband's best friend.

My best friend.

Each of whom has endured the drafting, reading, querying, and rejection with varying degrees of misery and immersion.

Terry said...

My husband and best friend, and I know my son, also a best friend, still does. My other friends. They all believe in me, maybe more than I do.

Jana Oliver said...

My beloved husband is the reason my career is blossoming. He's been behind me from the first moment I started typing out my strange little stories. He's edited my manuscripts, helped me brain storm plots and been there when things didn't go as planned. It was with incredible joy I was able to tell him my Y.A. novel had sold into two foreign market for some serious cash. It was as much his triumph as it was mine.

Lyn Miller-Lachmann said...

I'll take this opportunity to thank my son, Derrick. I began writing fiction when he was in seventh grade--at a time when he needed me to be there for him and I wasn't. Although we had a rough few years, he didn't become a juvenile delinquent, he graduated from college in four years, and he's now on his own, with a job in this tough economy.

Back in seventh grade, he also read the first draft of my novel and taught me a lot about pacing. And I'll never forget the night when I drove him and his younger sister to his friend's 13th birthday party and told him I was having trouble ending one of the chapters. "Ghosts!" he and his sister shouted in unison. The "ghosts" that end the chapter are my favorite part of that novel--which was finally published the summer after his freshman year in college.

Rogue Novelist said...

Thank you my invisible dog, Zero. Happy Velentine's Day. You are always fullheartedly beside me and supportive of all my projects.

Jille said...

I want to thank my husband, who, if he thinks I'm crazy for pursuing this, keeps it to himself and always remains supportive.

G said...

I would like to thank a few of my close friends, who unbeknownst to them, have turned into my favorite muses for writing.

Honestly, I don't think I would be where I'm heading today without them.

Eric said...

Great idea.

Nicole said...

My hubby. We celebrate one year of marriage on Saturday...I wonder what 1 year old frozen cake is going to taste like (After thawed of course)?!?!?

Dawn Maria said...

I'd like to thank my husband and teenage sons, for being supportive and finally understanding what , "I'm working!" means. But my biggest thanks goes to my BFF who reads and comments on every blog post I put up, even the crappy ones.

Michelle said...

Here's a shout out to my wonderful hub of 20 years; idea man, first reader and emergency ink run hero. Thanks for taking vacation time to send me to conferences and watch our brood while I write!

Lea said...

I'd like to Thank (with a capital T) my long term boyfriend - for having the courage to tell me when my writing is less than fantastic, putting up with me when I throw fit because of it and then graciously accepting my apology a week later when I realise he was right... His life would be easier if he gave up being so honest, but I'd never improve without him.

Backfence said...

My husband, who looks forward to his nightly bedtime story (or does an Oscar worthy job of faking his enthusiasm) -- i.e., the latest and greatest chapter of my book. He listens as I read out loud in bed. Occasionally he stops me to clarify a point: "Would Zeb really say it like that?" or "Did they make ____ [fill in the blank] in 1863?" I especially like it when he reacts with a chuckle, a gasp or, best of all, a belly laugh, because then I know he's truly invested in the story. He's my thermometer, my gauge ... and my biggest fan. I don't know what I'd do without him.

Amy said...

My husband and three little ones. My husband encourages, supports and is my loudest and most energetic cheerleader. My three little ones are too young to understand why mommy sits at the computer, hacking away on the keyboard...sometimes laughing...sometimes crying. While they don't fully get it, they know I'm up to something good (and quite frequently ask if I've mentioned them in my blog recently). :)

Kathleen Pooler said...

My husband,Wayne.He is my rock who endures my long absences into cyberspace after I return from my 8-10 hour day job. He also gives me honest feedback on my writing. He even fixes the meals so I can have more writing time. Thanks for the post and reminder of what I have to be grateful for.

Kathy Pooler
http://krpooler.wordpress.com

Trish Wooldridge said...

My Husband-of-Awesome makes my writing possible through his constant patience and support - and being a damn good critiquer of both the writing and business decisions. He's always honest in his comments, which balances out to the honesty I trust in his compliments. ... will be 10 years this September!

Grapeshot/Odette said...

My husband is my first reader, my first editor and my biggest fan. He still believes in me after countless rejections and disappointments. Now, having seen and partaken of the writing life for lo, these many years (I almost typed tears), he has begun a memoir.

mkcbunny said...

My husband has been extremely supportive. We spent Valentine's Day up at his studio in the Marin Headlands, where he drew and I read—outside, even! The weather was uncharacteristically warm and calm for a hill overlooking the Pacific.

Great Valentine's Day.

[Word ver: "ternes" / similar to terns, which do fly around the area]

GloriaAttarRNBSN said...

I definitely have to thank my daughter, Alexandra. Because her father died before she was born I have striven to leave a legacy for her. She will always have my published words with her.... that is, if she doesn't give away my works to the Goodwill in a spring cleaning frenzy!

Jenna St.Hilaire said...

In the interest of not posting a comment longer than the original piece, I've taken my thankings to my blog. Thanks for declaring this holiday, Nathan. A lot of people in my life deserve it.

Victoria said...

There you go, I must have missed something... I've been watching this blog for two years and I didn't notice your status change from engaged to married. Belated congratulations Nathan!

As for me, I will thank my husband and my parents... mainly because they nag me to write... and though I love to write, if I get out of the daily habit then I do need a good kick up the rear to get going again.

jessi said...

My husband, who reminds me that dinner's getting cold when "just five more minutes" turns into an hour. And my two boys, who deserve a full-time mom, but put up with a part-time one. And I especially thank all three of them for no longer asking if "IT" is almost done.

Nathan: Nice save. :)

Fat Bastard said...

I'd like to thank my mommy @austingirl. I love u mommy!!

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Catenabi said...

My friend Mary is my cheerleader. Sometimes, I think she believes in me more than I believe in myself.

While I was working on the first draft of my novel, she was always there to encourage me when I was convinced that I couldn't write another word (while whining about how mediocre that word would be even if I did write it.)

And now that the first draft is over, she's still be my side as I go through the revision process.

I could not do this without her. Best Writing Friend EVER!!

Melissa Pearl said...

I'd like to thank my best friend, Brenda, who told me to start writing in the first place. I'd also like to thank my husband for putting up with my absentmindedness when I'm trying to pull a story together :)

Priya Parmar said...

my mom. she has edited every draft multiple times. and before all that, she taught me how to write... :)

Ashley A. said...

What a wonderful thing to solicit. I chose to divorce a very unsupportive person. My writing cannot be separated from who I am.

I've now been in a relationship for a few years with someone who does everything from just listening to making dinner for my kids if I HAVE to lock myself away after work and get something down.

My kids are excited that I call myself a writer. My parents are interested. My sister-in-law has just signed on as a beta reader.

It really does take a village.

Sarah said...

Well done, Nathan! I'm always a sap for love/appreciation stuff so I'm a big fan of this posting topic.

My husband, Lane, is my biggest fan. He is my cheerleader when I am proud of something and want to show off what I created. He is my encourager when I don't know why I got into this business and feel like I have nothing to offer. He is my editor, my partner, and my best friend. He gets it, and for that I am forever thankful.

Marleen said...

I decided over the weekend my significant other was the most wonderful person for putting up with my solitude while I write. He never complains because I didn't have time to clean or cook. He has become quite proficient at that. He's my best sounding board. I've gotta love him for his faith in me.

Diana said...

Wow, thanks for the opportunity to do this! I definitely want to mention my husband, who understood when I decided to change jobs so I could make more time to write. My friend Karen cheers me on over coffee once a week. And finally, I work with an amazing group at the library who have been supporting me and reading my drafts. I'm a lucky girl, that's for sure.

therese said...

Well, my husband has certainly taught me all about conflict, drama and a non-stoppable pace. So I guess it's time to learn my lesson and get a cabin in the woods for some peace and quiet!

Lorelei Armstrong said...

The dedication on my published novel is "For my family, who believed when I did not."

Kaitlyne said...

Well, I live alone, but I'd like to thank the three friends of mine who regularly listen to me ramble on about my plots when I get stuck and am trying to figure something out. It must be boring as heck, but it's so incredibly helpful, and I wouldn't be anywhere near where I am right now without them.

Also have to thank my two comic book nerd friends who regularly tell *me* all about what's going on with their comics. I'm currently writing a superhero story, and I've been able to make all sorts of references to things I've never even read (asking to check accuracy of course) because of it. They also are great at recommending things to read (I'm an Ultimate Spiderman fan, but haven't read much else) for reference.

Mira said...

This is a wonderful post.

Sadly, I'm completely over-stressed and am sort of in a "everyone is out to get me" sort of mood. Especially other drivers. They can't fool me. I know they are doing it on purpose just to bug me. Get off the road, other drivers. Sheesh.

That said, I shall contribute positively to this post, and thank everyone who ever has and ever will put up with me. You are generous and lovely and I am truly grateful.

And thank you Nathan - you've been a great support to me, and very patient, and the above paragraph absolutely applies to you, too.

Jen said...

I'm so encouraged to know so many folks have a spouse or SA who truly stands by them. Writing is lonely and not profitable. We are bitches and bastards. We wake up at weird hours and are seemingly addicted to our computers. We get lost in thought in mid conversations because we just thought of clever dialogue to add to manuscripts. We have to be the hardest S.O.B.s to live with. Okay, I'm generalizing but you get my point. It's only my first book completed and I'm afraid to do another. I worry I might max out the charitable nature of my spouse. The beauty of it all though, is that when you walk out of the house and you see the glow of your loved one's eyes as they talk about your work to other people. Wow. It makes it all worth it: Someone believes in you, and they won't hate you if you fail. It could be a dad, sister, friend or spouse. Whoever it is that believes in your is a treasure. If you happen to share living space with them, even better! Heres to all our devoted and supportive loves in our lives.

karen said...

My thanks goes to my husband for being willing to go without so I can stay home and write full time. Also, it goes to those of my kids who have been willing to read and critique my work. They are intelligent and articulate and they help me tremendously.

sex scenes at starbucks said...

Doubtless my husband and children have sacrificed much for my career. My son sometimes tells people I'm a writer. That always spurs me to be a better writer.

Nancy Coffelt said...

Awww.

My hubby lived on not just take out pizza, but frozen pizza while I was working on my first (and second) novels.

So how does he stay so thin????

Moira Young said...

My husband. He's taken over many of the chores (like vaccuuming, washing dishes, and taking out the garbage) so that I have just a little bit more time to myself to write.

Oh, and we carpool to work now, which means I get there an hour before I have to start (also for writing time).

On Sunday I thanked him by making prime rib steaks, sauteed mushrooms, and roasted garlic mashed potatoes. And then he did the dishes again!

lexcade said...

three of my high school teachers. not that my family isn't supportive, but it wasn't to the degree that these three were. they invested a lot of time in my writing, even after i graduated, so i credit them with getting me to this point. i've lost touch with them, but they gave me a lot of useful advice, confidence, and support.

and i have a lot of friends on penwrights.com who have been there since the beginning and have cheered me on, critiqued the heck out of me, and helped me mold myself as a better writer.

Skrabs said...

I have to thank my partner, who finds the whole process baffling but is quite proud of it anyway. I give him permission to remind me when I'm getting a little bit into-the-zone and neglecting him. Love him madly.

Anonymous said...

My second wife once burst into my study and said - I'm a fulltime writer -, 'Living with you is like living with someone who's having a affair.'

Jodi said...

My son...who learned how to tell time with "one more page" or "one more email". My husband who has copies of my books in his repair shop. And my daughters who are my true cheerleaders.

M.J.B. said...

I want to thank my partner, Chad. He accepted my creative ambitions since day one, without any questions, and he continues to offer down to earth (and sometimes harsh) advice whenever I'm feeling doubtful or pouty. His otherwise quiet support means more to me than he'll ever realize.

Also, my mother has been a wonderful editor and reader, which she can thankfully separate from being the most encouraging and loving person I know!

Seamus said...

Yeah, what he/she/they said above, plus my deepest appreciation to my wife for understanding what writing means to the soul of a writer, without the slightest desire to experience it herself.

Andi Newton said...

If not for my husband, I wouldn't be doing this. He's done so much to further my writing career, not least of which is supporting my decision to quit my day job and write full time. He's my sounding board when I'm hashing out a plot. He's patient when I zone out while he's talking to me because I'm thinking about a story. He helps me find writing and editing work. Nags me to submit stories when I'm dragging my feet. Encourages me to keep going when I feel like a failure. Celebrates with me when I get something published. Helps me promote myself and my work. And all while working a full-time job and writing his own stuff. The man is a godsend, and I'd be lost without him.

Wanda B. Ontheshelves said...

My thanks go to two of my friends who are "creatives" also - it has to do with, you don't have to just WRITE to be a writer. You can work in other mediums, try your hand at different things - you don't have to be perfect at everything, just try something if you feel like it - if you want to continue creating in that other medium, that's great, keep going, see where it leads you.

I feel like writing, and only writing, can start to feel dry and hard - you know how mud gets, kids ride through it in the rain, it hardens, and then the sun beats down on it - those tire tracks aren't changing direction anytime soon.

So I like to try different things - it's great having friends who are the same way - creatively flexible - even if writing is their main thing.

I like also what my dad said, "trying to change a person's mind by the time they're 18, is like trying to change the shape of cement after it's hardened. You have to take a sledgehammer to it."

He didn't mean it literally, of course - but still, after a point, maybe continued creativity IS a bit like changing the shape of cement - everyone complains how hard writing/revision is - I always find it helps to draw or paint or whip out the old bottle of glitter glue for some relief.

Thanks to my friends who are the same way (did you know people are making sculpture out of toilet paper rolls?)

http://villageofjoy.com/weird-toilet-paper-roll-sculptures-by-junior-jacquet/

Yvonne said...

With all this love in the air I am de-lurking :-) I want to add my thanks, but maybe from a slightly different perspective. I want to thank my husband for being brave enough to write and passionate enough to pursue his own dreams. For me "twoolwuuuvvvee" (Princess Bride reference) is about being with someone who is unafraid to chase dreams, and not because they are guaranteed of any result. And so I am proud to tip-toe around the kitchen to bake snacks, to be the tough love critic when he bounces pages off me, and to grouchily steal back the covers when he gets up to write because I love that he chases what he loves. <3

Thomas Burchfield said...

That's easy. My darling Elizabeth, the first and only ever to say "I do."

MzMannerz said...

Late to this post. It's been a terrible week. I am thankful for having my husband to walk through all of it with.

And I'm thankful for him asking, as if he finds me and my stories so fascinating, "What are you working on?" every time he sees me tapping away.

Pamela said...

I would like to say thanks to my sister, Crystal, for always being there for me and for joining me on this writing adventure. I would also like to thank my parents who have always encouraged us to do whatever we are passionate about. And last, but certainly not least, I want to thank my dog for always being available to listen and provide much needed hugs.

Kathryn Paterson said...

My husband, undoubtedly. He puts up with what he calls my "existential writing angst" and does it lovingly and (mostly) uncomplainingly. He's amazing.

Ryan said...

Without a doubt I too have to thank my wife. As I said in the unofficial dedication of my first completed manuscript I never would have been able to write the book without her. And even if I had been able to it would have been a much worse book.

in the deep end of the pool said...

i'd simply like to thank my wiener dog, Sloppy Joe, for snuggling up to me while i type away at all hours of the night. thanks, Joe!!

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